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Emotions, a Link from the Inside Out

Helping children to grow and blossom, give them the desire to understand, to construct who they are, to visit themselves internally, to be connected with others and the world… the desire to thrive … then learn to become serious, without taking themselves seriously…

Say what you may, the quality of the children’s future is linked to the involvement and presence of the adults in their lives. Childhood education, in the broad sense, involves the school as does the painter with his painting. To perfect it and make it beautiful requires time, patience and tolerance. The way a child is seen by others will color his sense of identity, help him build and understand his inner foundations

Eden School has created a space where children have the opportunity to discover and to invent themselves. Thanks to an educational philosophy based on classes that develop understanding from within. Children are led to become active in their own construction, aware of their possibilities, their strengths and weaknesses, and thus learn to better live, communicate with others and find their place in life.

This work of consciousness involves, among other things, to identify, recognize and express emotions. Pleasant, disagreeable, invasive, comforting, calming: all these sensations inhabit the same house, the body. The work of the theater-movement class revolves around the encounter with this inner universe in order to connect the children to themselves and allow them to accept everything that happens within. A thousand things happen, and we learn to say yes to all of this without fighting against it or moving as far as possible from the concepts of good or bad.

Emotions exist and it is necessary to deal with them. One of the keys to accept them is to tame them. It’s a balancing act. Do not deny the emotions, do not let them become your master …

Listening to our emotions helps us to manage the tension they generate and make sure that they don’t rule our lives By recognizing their presence and, little by little identifying them despite their non-verbal nature, children can determine their own personality and their own course of action. As with verbal language, emotions construct thought, adding intuition to reasoning. It is a work that is done slowly, very slowly. It is probably the work of every human being, throughout life …

Obviously the goal can not be to for the children to make the internal connection without previously cultivating the connection to the outside. It is precisely this link with others that will strengthen and confirm these important intimate impressions of their emotions. Presently, there is research in neuroscience that clearly shows that our neurons constantly resonate with those of others and that they are made to connect with them. In an interview conducted by Patrice Van Eersel with the neuropsychiatrist Boris Cyrulnik (Your brain never ceases to amaze you, editions Albin Michel) he describes how crucial it is for children to be in direct contact with others, observing and interacting with them. “The rituals of interaction are made up of thousands of small infra-verbal mimics, nods of the head, glances, intonations of the voice, which make us react to the hundredth of a second (thanks to our neurons). For example, we are able to think in a flash: “Oh, he gets angry, I have to stop” or on the contrary: “What I tell him pleases him, I can go on.”

These emotional interactions are crucial in order to be connected with others and to develop this extremely precious quality in relationships: empathy.

To feel our emotions, to connect with those of others, to be attentive to their needs and feelings, as we do with our own.

To feel and to feel felt.

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